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October 2016

Funded Counselling with Asiya Trust

Funded Counselling Sessions with Asiya Trust

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Many women suffer in one way or another from a life of tyranny and oppression. Whether that is from a narcissist dictator as Asiyah did (wife of the Pharaoh), or the oppressive desires of the self. No women should need to hide their true fitrah (natural disposition towards Divine goodness) but one often does through fear of judgment, poverty, stigma or abuse. Asiya trust was set up to support women emerge from oppression and discover peace in this life and the life hereafter.

Asiya represents, strength, courage, self-love, compassion, acceptance and humbleness. Asiya trust can support your life by offering funding towards your counselling at Salaam Solutions. Whether you are Muslim or not, an Islamic inspired approach to psychotherapy and counselling can transform your life and hereafter.

Asiya trust relies on donations and is soon to become a registered charity. Entitlement to Asiya funded counselling sessions is upon meeting the following criteria;

  • Unemployed and not in support of other family income.
  • Student in full time study
  • Single parent Mother with children under 16 and not working.
  • Recent widow.
  • Convert (who’s family have rejected their faith)

*A contribution fee is required for the counselling sessions of £10 per 1 hour session of 6 funded sessions of a normally £40 session fee. (Asiya trust will pay Salaam Solutions Therapy fee). £10 contribution is payable at the beginning of each session with a 24hr cancellation policy. Failure to turn up for your session more than once will result in cancellation of Asiya funded counselling place and a charge for the missed sessions.

To apply for 6 funded counselling sessions by Asiya trust email salaamsolutionstherapy@gmail.com or text 07513951531

The Legacy of Asiya

Asiya (Arabic: آسية), also known as Asiya bint Muzahim, is revered by Muslims as one of the greatest women of all time, other three are Mary (mother of Jesus), Khadija (wife of Muhammad) and Fatimah (daughter of Muhammad). She was the wife of the Pharaoh (in Arabic pronounced “Fir’awn”), who reigned during Moses’s (Arabic: Musa) time. The Qur’an chronicles her as a great person. She declared her faith in the message of God after witnessing the miracle of Moses in the Court of Pharaoh and after witnessing the death of another believing woman under torture. The Pharaoh tried to turn her away from the God. But Asiya refused to reject the God and teaching of Moses. On the Pharaoh’s order, she was tortured to death.

It is said that Asiya was a sincere believer and that she fully submitted herself to Allah, despite being the wife of Pharaoh. According to Hadith, she will be among the first women to enter Paradise because she accepted Moses’s monotheism over Pharaoh’s beliefs. The Qur’an mentions Asiya as an example to all Muslims

And God sets forth, as an example to those who believe the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: ‘O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong’:

— Qur’an, chapter 66 (At-Tahrim), verse 11

Abu Musa Ashaari narrated that once the Islamic prophet, Muhammad stated, ‘Many men reached perfection but none among the women reached perfection except Mary,the daughter of Imran, and Asiya, Pharoah’s wife.’

– Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.329

Ruqyah Rogues & Fake Sheikhs

Google search jinn possession or ruqyah healing and your bombarded with websites of rogue practitioners charging money for innovated practices of Ruqyah. There are websites set up , claiming to offer sunnah healing also training for anyone to become a ruqyah practitioner. On further investigation these narcissistic rogues have multiple businesses  and other questionable qualifications. Rogue Ruqies can cause serious problems to their clients, sometimes as serious as death (BBC 2012).

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If someone is charging money to recite Quran for you, sell  a Quran tape/cd to play of ‘protection verses’, spray water or vinegar over you, tap you with a stick, shout at you to expel the jinn! then he/she is probably a fake sheikh!

However , there are knowledgeable people out there making it their mission to educate vulnerable people on the evils of this shirk (association with other than Allah swt). If you feel vulnerable, frightened or exposed to Magic, evil eye, hatred or evil Jinn then read the information below on protection and seek professional guidance and support from a registered psychotherapist, mental health practitioner, counsellor, GP (physical), or holistic therapist (Hijama/cupping).

Below is reference to a discussion on  Ruqyah and the warning signs of these fake sheikhs.

The Profession of Ruqyah-Giving

Some people have turned ruqyah-giving into a profession for which they devote their full time, and from which they earn a lot of money. This conflicts with the Sunnah and the practice of the salaf. It should be avoided by both the giver (called a reciter or a raqi) and the seeker of ruqyah. Some of the reasons for its prohibition are the following:

The common people think that the reciter has a special healing power, thereby turning their minds from the True Healer and His words to the one who recites them. This is a clear source of shirk.

We have no reports of any of the sahabah and salaf devoting their time to offer this service. This makes it a bid’ah in the Din.

When the devils realize the common people’s fascination by a particular person, they do things to cause deviation to him and them. This is clearly expressed in the above discussion that took place between Ibn Mas’ud and his wife.

When a reciter finds the people gathering at his door seeking his help, he would imagine that he has a high status before Allah, and would be drawn into vanity and conceit.

Most of the reciters have a poor knowledge of the Sunnah, which makes them claim or do things that have no basis in Islam.

Since this profession is a good source of income, it attracts many impostors and liars who claim that they can treat people, thereby adding to the spread of ignorance, falsehood, and shirk.(ref Ruqyah Sharia)

Have Trust in Allah swt and his Given Tools for Healing; the Quran and Sunnah. 

  • Seek knowledge of your deen (religion)
  • Seek knowledge of your condition (self awareness of your issues is key to taqwa)
  • Seek knowledge of others (educate yourself on Allahs creation, for there are ayat everywhere)
  • Strengthen your belief in Allah through reflection and practices (Based on Qur’aan, Sunnah,prayer, supplication, remembrance)
  • Aim for  sincerity in worshipping Allah and check your intentions in all situtuations
  • Strive towards pleasing Allah, ask your self ‘will this please Allah?’
  • Avoid  unlawful places and situations that can lead to what is forbidden, for example isolating himself with a female/male , etc.
  • Keep trust and confidentiality. Guard the affairs of his friends and family and self and protect their secrets.(speaking with a counsellor/trusted sheikh who gives counselling is permissible for self healing and protection)
  • Practice and propagate the religion of Allah. seek knowledge of Islam and other world affairs, learn, practice and teach.
  • Seek the way of the Messenger and follow the correct methodology of tazkiyah (Quranic self development)
  • Aim to Recite, read and reflect and apply the Quran in your daily life
  • Give optional charity and help others, even if it is with a smile.
  • Seek forgiveness from Allah swt (tawbah) and Forgive yourself and others (know and reflect what you are asking forgiveness for and seek the reasons why)
  • Aim to know Allah in order to attain complete sincerity and belief in the unity of Allah, The Wise, The Judge. He is harmed by nothing and nothing benefits him. glory be to Him and He is above all things – (Ibn Qayyim 2/238-245)

Jinn Possession; Fact or Cultural Fiction? Call for New Research

Call for Research

When asked the question, Can Jinn posses human beings and if so does this contribute or cause psychological/spiritual illness?  generally the consensus amongst muslim cultures* is to agree with the possibility . Whilst most mental health practitioners and Islamic teachers discuss the importance of seeking professional psychological or medical  help for psychological symptoms, some muslim cultures still prefer to self diagnose their condition as Jinn possession and consult with rogue practitioners who practice innovated treatments, outside of the practices of the Sunnah (teachings based on the Quran and Prophetic practices).

However the question, can Jinn actually possess human beings? seems to be buried with the scholars of the past and not open for discussion between professionals, scholars and the general public. Exploration of the question if left un-researched could lead to heresy, negative innovation or indifference.  As we see a global misinterpretation of Islamic teachings personified in acts of terrorism, it is essential that philosophies and interpretations of Islamic texts such as this question is researched, translated and presented to all Muslims and non in order to improve  knowledge and rectify possible misunderstandings and more seriously, corruption of sacred teachings. At present there is a great shortage of academic research that looks at Jinn possession . The majority of books available to the Muslim public and translated into English, contain small chapters on Jinn possession and these chapters repeat the same rhetoric that was assumed over 8 centuries ago . The author calls for a more informed interpretation of the ambiguous verses relating to Jinn and possession and open the debate with contemporary Islamic Scholars. The researcher  welcomes  debate and discourse  based on academic, medical/scientific or professional evidence to enrich the study.

Below is a short introduction to the research, to be published in due course. comments can be made on the page below or via email to salaamsolutionstherapy@gmail.com

(*muslim culture referes to person(s) who claim Islam as their religion but may not necessarily practice the teachings of Islam)

RESEARCH 

How does the assumption of possession by supernatural beings affect the access, diagnosis and efficacy of psychological services?

Abstract

Research which explores disadvantages for BME client groups in accessing psychological services highlights  barriers such as; education, language, trust, and stigmatisation (Cinnirella & Loewenthal 1999; Gilbert et al 2007; Haque 2004; Rethink 2007; Weatherhead & Daiches 2010; Youssef & Deane 2006; Pilkington et al 2011). Within these barriers, such as stigmatisation, it was generally reported that Muslims (amongst the BME groups discussed) hold the view that mental and some physical illnesses are caused by possession of supernatural beings referred to as Jinn. These assumptions could be an additional or contributory factor to the reason why Muslims reluctantly access Western mental health services? (Ally & Laher 2008; Haque 2004;Islam & Campbell, 2012; Weatherhead & Daiches 2010).  It is further noted that there is also a disadvantage for muslims in accessing the guidance  offered in the Quran as guidance and healing of spiritual, psychological ailments. This could be why  Muslim cultures often refer to culturally influenced diagnosis of Jinn possession and innovated treatment methods outside of the teachings of the Quran? (Ally & Laher 2008; Haque 2004;Islam & Campbell, 2012; Weatherhead & Daiches 2010).  The author of this  research intends to examine the origins of these assumptions in more detail and examine the interpretations supporting mental illness as Jinn possession whilst also exploring in more depth why Muslims rely on cultural and/or invented interpretations and practices of religious guidance (Utz 2011, Khaleel 2005, Phillips, 1989).

 

‘F***ing Muslims’

 

‘F***ing muslims’ they shout as I walk on by,

‘do you not know who I am?’

‘can you not see me cry?’

but they do not know who I really am and if I care is it because I am? 

I was posed the question the other day, ‘who are you?’ I was really taken back by my reaction. I had several answers in my mind; I answered with my name (no doubt a child response to the parental questioning!) Internally I answered the higher parent (the Creator ) ‘I’m Muslim’.  My answer ended up suiting the context of the initial discussion and the questioner, ‘I’m a psychotherapist’.

I left that conversation dissatisfied. I had  sold myself short, I am not just a psychotherapist, in fact I don’t even know if I am entitled to that label  anyway! ‘becoming’ a psychotherapist takes at least 10 years, maybe a lifetime, maybe never! I know I’m a mum, its a fact, I gave birth 4 times! but do I action motherly service or love at all times? One of my most obvious labels to those who pass me by in the street is that I am a white, muslim convert or as the poet says ‘a f***ing Muslim’.  If anyone could be bothered to think beyond their initial judgment they could ask why is she a white muslim convert? but the usual quick judgment is, her husband is muslim so she converted (you must be joking, just give that a try!), or she’s an attention seeker, oppressed, confused, terrorist, crazy, uneducated, backward etc etc or on a positive some might just see me as a fellow soul seeker (hello there!)

My identity as a Muslim brings me enormous strength and also enormous challenge. My conversion to Islam has been both liberating and oppressive, but the oppression is not from the Quran or the Prophetic teachings,  the oppression has come from myself. My identities are desperately trying to lead me! ones such as; ‘I was once slim’ ‘my hair was once my asset’ ‘i liked wine’ ‘i am the perfect mum’ there are many, and each one of them has nothing to do with the core essence of me, each one of them was borrowed or given by others.  The most difficult one, the one that brings me so much pain is the one that cares what you think. Your view of me does have an impact, for sure, or I wouldn’t bother to write. However, I will not let this ‘hanger on’ oppressive identifier rule me because then it becomes master of my  thoughts, feelings and my behaviour, what scary thought!

A 2013 report on  convert Identity highlights some beautiful struggles of the female muslim convert. I shed a few tears at the depth of the empathic enquiry and commend his efforts to understand our struggle. I will end with a quote from his work, which I am am more than happy to identity with;

”conversion is always in a mode of becoming through which a state of being subsists as a core.”   (Professor Yasir Suleiman 2013).

 

A Prophetic Approach to Change @ Salaam Solutions

Salaam Solutions provides a unique approach to counselling and psychotherapy; Transactional Analysis for diagnosing the sate of the self i.e. the Nafs  and Tazzkiyah for self transformation and change.

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Tazzkiyah is an ancient concept based on; gradual, personal, social and spiritual development using the Quran as a guide. However research, application and teaching the Quran in this way is not as practiced as it once was (Noesis 2016). Centuries of misinterpretation and misuse of the Quran has resulted in a spiritual deficit in Muslims and a distorted worldview of Islam. Our concern at Salaam Solutions is based on treating the psycho-spiritual self , i.e.; purification of the Nafs.

Transactional Analysis psychotherapy is a western based model for diagnosis, and is a helpful tool to aid self awareness of the content and function of our Nafs (personality and self).  Once self awareness (muraqaba) begins then thus begins the Tazzkiyah journey of elevation and self purification.  Tazzkiyah is presented as a form of psychological healing with scope for treating numerous mental health and spiritual conditions such as;  depression, anxiety also issues related to unseen entities (envy, Jinn, evil eye). Tazzkiyah is  based solely on the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet swws.

To begin your journey of Prophetic change email : salaamsolutionstherapy@gmail.com or call/text 07513951531

The service is currently only available to women. Cost and location of Blend Therapy centre can be found at http://www.salaamsolutions.com

 

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