Asiya Trust; Supporting muslim women in psychologically abusive relationships
Many women suffer in one way or another from a life of tyranny and oppression. Whether that is from a narcissist dictator as Asiyah did (wife of the Pharaoh), or from family members taking advantage. No muslim women should be subjected to psychological and or physical abuse by their husband or family.
The Quran began its revelation warning believers that narcissistic traits are diseases of the heart.
Surah Alaq ayat 9-16, Surah Qalam ayat 11-14 begins to name just a few of the traits of narcissism such as liars, oppressors, arrogance, slanderous, mockers and so on, the Quran is full of examples of psychological and physical abusers and warns continuously against this character.
But narcissism can be quite subtle to a victim of a narcissist and the narcissist themselves often accuse others as being narcissists!
Time and time again women come to therapy (and men) expressing their anguish at the hands of a narcissist. It can be a husband, it can be a mother in law, it can be a father, it can also be a teacher. What is even more astonishing is that some claim to be Muslims, they practice their faith with no awearness that their own narcissism is an evil blocking their hearts. Some narcissists hide behind a cause, claiming to be Imams, Sheikhs, charity fundraisers and even therapists! The very Abuse they commit they then criticise publicly, showing themselves to be saviours, charitable persons, experts in their various fields.
Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
In order for a person to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) they must meet five or more of the following symptoms:
- Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
- Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
- Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
- Requires excessive admiration
- Has a very strong sense of entitlement, e.g., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
- Is exploitative of others, e.g., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
- Lacks empathy, e.g., is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
- Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
- Regularly shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
Asiya trust was set up to support women emerge from oppression, gain empowerment and discover peace in this life and the life hereafter.
Asiya represents, strength, courage, self-love, compassion, acceptance and humbleness.
Asiya trust relies on donations and is soon to become a registered charity. Entitlement to Asiya funded counselling sessions is upon meeting the following criteria;
- Unemployed and not in support of other family income.
- Student in full time study
- Single parent Mother with children under 16 and not working.
- Recent widow.
- Convert (who’s family have rejected their faith)
*A contribution fee is required for the counselling sessions of £20 per 1 hour session of 6 funded sessions of a normally £40 session fee. (Asiya trust will pay Salaam Solutions Therapy fee). £20 contribution is payable at the beginning of each session with a 24hr cancellation policy. Failure to turn up for your session more than once will result in cancellation of Asiya funded counselling place and a charge for the missed sessions.
To apply for 6 funded counselling sessions by Asiya trust email firstname.lastname@example.org or text 07513951531
The Legacy of Asiya
Asiya (Arabic: آسية), also known as Asiya bint Muzahim, is revered by Muslims as one of the greatest women of all time, other three are Mary (mother of Jesus), Khadija (wife of Muhammad) and Fatimah (daughter of Muhammad). She was the wife of the Pharaoh (in Arabic pronounced “Fir’awn”), who reigned during Moses‘s (Arabic: Musa) time. The Qur’an chronicles her as a great person. She declared her faith in the message of God after witnessing the miracle of Moses in the Court of Pharaoh and after witnessing the death of another believing woman under torture. The Pharaoh tried to turn her away from the God. But Asiya refused to reject the God and teaching of Moses. On the Pharaoh’s order, she was tortured to death.
It is said that Asiya was a sincere believer and that she fully submitted herself to Allah, despite being the wife of Pharaoh. According to Hadith, she will be among the first women to enter Paradise because she accepted Moses’s monotheism over Pharaoh’s beliefs. The Qur’an mentions Asiya as an example to all Muslims
And God sets forth, as an example to those who believe the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: ‘O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong’:
— Qur’an, chapter 66 (At-Tahrim), verse 11
Abu Musa Ashaari narrated that once the Islamic prophet, Muhammad stated, ‘Many men reached perfection but none among the women reached perfection except Mary,the daughter of Imran, and Asiya, Pharoah’s wife.’
– Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.329